Mary Margaret Dockendorff Kibler, 66, of Sun Lakes, Ariz., passed away Monday, June 2, 2014, at the Friendship Village Hospice House in Tempe, Ariz. Celebration of Life services will be held at a later date. Interment will be at Pleasant Grove Cemetery, Danville, Iowa.
Memorials have been established for Paws & More Animal Shelter in Washington, Iowa, or to a charity of choice.
Mary Margaret was born July 31, 1947, in Burlington, Iowa, the youngest child of Elsie Margaret (Stimson) and Max William Dockendorff. She was welcomed by three older siblings, two sisters and a brother. Mary graduated from Danville High School. She held a B.A. degree and the Master of Arts in music degree from Arizona State University. Mary also received her CPA and worked for a time as a certified public accountant. She was a member of Sigma Alpha Iota music fraternity and the Alpha Lambda Delta scholastic honorary.
Her career was as a trust officer at Northern Trust in Phoenix, Arizona, and Cedar Rapids Bank & Trust in Cedar Rapids. Earlier in life, she began as a classical musician and played principal flute for Arizona Opera.
Mary was a member of Toastmasters International, where she served as district governor and the international director from Region III. She was member of the Phoenix Rotary 100 and a Paul Harris Fellow. She loved to travel and her adventures took her to five continents. And she loved her pets, both dogs and cats.
Mary Margaret is survived by her husband, Charles Kibler of Sun Lakes, Ariz.; her mother, Elsie Dockendorff of Washington, Iowa; her sister, Karen (Gary) Murphy of Washington, Iowa; her sister, Jan Dockendorff (John Dowdall) of Marion; her sister-in-law, Frances Jackson of Portland, Ore.; five nieces and nephews, Derek Murphy (Dorrie) of Bettendorf, Janelle Menzia-Murphy (Jess) of Portland, Ore., Matthew Murphy (Sylvia) of Atlanta, Ga., Brian Boland (Wakako) of Albany, Calif., and Amy Hunzelman (Joel) of Waverly; and 10 great-nieces and nephews.
She was preceded in death by her father, Max Dockendorff in 1982; and her brother, Lyle Dockendorff in 2011.
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Bill Bristol, DTM, PDG
Mary Margaret Dockendorff-Kibler:
A lady, a leader, a motivator, most of all, a real friend. That’s how I (and many others) will remember Mary Margaret Dockendorff-Kibler—or as we called her, “MMD” for short. She ‘went through all the chairs’ from POT (plain ole Toastmaster) to International Director—and did it in fine fashion with a professionalism few others could muster. She knew what it took to get things done and she knew who had the drive and knowledge to help make it happen!
Records from her years in the Top 3 of District 3 illustrate her ability to ‘make things happen’.
1981-82 as LGM, District 3 earned the Select Distinguished District recognition.
1982-83 as LGET, District 3 earned the Presidents Distinguished District recognition.
1983-84 as DG, District 3 again earned the Select Distinguished District recognition.
That continuous record of excellence has never been achieved before nor since her years in District 3 service! The year following her IPDG year she went on to serve as an International Director for Toastmasters International. Many remember her as a strong and determined Director—wanting to get things done, rather than wait for things to happen.
MMD will be sorely missed in District 3 and Toastmasters International, but her personal drive, her leadership style, and her friendship will never be forgotten.
Sandee Brogan, DTM
When I was the Cholla Area 1 Governor, 2005-06, MMD was an officer of one of the five clubs in my Area, Ocotillo, the second-oldest club in the state. I didn't have to worry about them being Distinguished or better! My two assistants and I held Area Council meetings every month--a bit excessive but I'd been told it was a Best Practice. Mary Margaret would always show up if she possibly could. At first, I was intimidated. After all, she'd been not only a District Governor, but an International Director, and here she was, coming to my little Area Council meeting! But she was so warm and friendly, and always supportive. I was careful to have timed agendas, start on time, and end on time! She helped me a lot. She made thought-provoking contributions to our AC mtgs and to her club meetings when I visited, and she will always be a fond memory of my AG year. I feel very fortunate to have had the honor of knowing her.
Nancy Starr-Cassidy, DTM, PDG, PID
Mary Margaret Dockendorff was a role model for women in leadership, as the first female International Director from District 3. I first became aware of MMD when I was an Area Governor and saw her in action at a DEC meeting. She was a little intimidating - she was gracious, professional, yet tough. She would ask tough questions, and she held our officers to high standards.
As I moved up the leadership track, MMD became a mentor - I spent oh-so-many hours listening to stories in hospitality rooms at conferences, and later at PDG meetings. She always had some hilarious stories about people and the organization. There were many lessons in those stories. She was a gracious hostess, often opening her home for parties and special meetings. I will never forget how to spell her last name - when she was campaigning for ID, the District 3 leaders would spell her name using the old Mickey Mouse tune - instead of M-I-C (pause) K-E-Y (pause) M-O-U-S-E, sing D-O-C (pause) K-E-N (pause) D-O-R-F-F. Rest in peace, dear friend.
Tim Smith, DTM, IPDG
Mary Margaret was a gracious, intelligent and competent woman. She wanted her district leaders to do well but understood that none of us is perfect. She told me that she always learned the most from her mistakes. Although I did not know her as long as some, she was a major force in shaping my leadership. She told me that I was sometimes too nice and to always stand up for myself.
Jim Davis, DTM, PDG
Mary Margret Dockendorf-Kibler was more than a mentor to me. I first met her at my very first District 3 Conference in Rio Rico in the spring of 1982. She found time to talk to me even though she was very busy as the District 3 Administrative Lt. Governor. We struck up a friendship that shaped not only my Toastmaster career but altered my entire perspective on life. Not too surprisingly her council changed the course of my life.
When she ran for International Director I went to Texas to help her campaign. Every time I faced a cross roads I would seek her out and listen and follow her advice. I know my experience is not much different than scores of great leaders in District 3 who she would tirelessly counsel. She was the ultimate mentor. I will miss most those late evening chats after the high energy days at District Conferences. Her stories about how things worked and how they could be better always inspired me. This District will never see her equal again.